I thought I could do it all once, and motherhood has taught me differently. Early on as a blogger for Everything Birth, I wrote about how we have to be realistic with what we feel we can take on.
See, prioritizing has been a theme for me since the first time I ever saw that second line on a pregnancy test. I am only human and I can’t do everything all at the same time and do it all perfectly. Sometimes, I can’t even do a little bit really well. That’s when I know I need to step back and prioritize.
I did that last month.
Last month, I talked to Crystal, the owner of Everything Birth and the woman who has granted me the freedom to write just about anything my heart desired about motherhood for the past three years on this blog that she owns.
I told her what I’m about to tell you.
As you probably know, I am now homeschooling my step-son who was prenatally exposed to alcohol. This year, when my older son caught wind of how my step-son was able to sleep in everyday, develop more hobbies, and have more social opportunities of his own choosing, he asked me if he could go to school at home as well. I bet you can guess what my answer was.
Homeschooling is a bit like waitressing. I bounce back and forth between tables, field complaints, and still try to tend to my secondary duties of washing dishes and folding towels. There’s no time amidst all this to sit down and write blog posts. For awhile, I just stayed up way too late and wrote posts (that would end up needing editing in the wee hours of the morning) after everyone went to bed.
But that strategy took time away from one of my favorite times of the day… The time I spent cuddling, watching old episodes of Star Trek with my husband after all the children were tucked in for bed. We had finished up Voyager, so I thought my schedule was doable. Except, as it turns out, the adult time with my husband was actually the best part of Star Trek.
My point? I have to put down the proverbial pen for awhile.
My kids are only going to be little once, and a marriage isn’t made up of the big events, it’s made up of the small moments of normalcy and the smell of your spouse falling asleep beside you. It’s made up of the late night pointless conversations where entire sentences can be said without interruption. Every day has only so many hours. Something had to give.
As it turned out, my timing was nearly perfect. Crystal has finally gotten to a place in her life where she has the time to start writing on her blog again. She has learned so much about natural birth, midwifery and natural lifestyles in her studies these past couple of years. I am exited to learn from all of her experiences and studies.
I will be stopping in from time to time to do guest posts, so this isn’t actually “goodbye forever.” I know you will enjoy reading Crytal’s new posts and hope you keep a look out for me in the future as well.
I want to thank all of you for reading and connecting with me over the past few years. I have learned so much from this community and have made many new, important friendships because of it. I am grateful for the opportunity Crystal gave me three years ago. I am grateful for the support she’s given me over the years and continues to give me still to this day. She’s one of my favorite people ever; I know you’ll love getting reacquainted with her again.
Oh, and… As for my late night viewing… We decided on Dr. Who. We’ve just finished “The Parting of Ways.” I’m really sad about the 9th Doctor, but have been told I will love the 10th Doctor just as much.